'No one wants to be friends with their boss': Manager complains that his staff is too chummy and he feels left out, internet serves up harsh reality check

Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor

Mar 4, 2023 10:00 AM EST

Getting a manager you get along with is rare these days. The workforce is filled with entitled Karen and Kyle bosses that think since they're you boss they can treat you like trash. Those jobs are the kind you have to quit as soon as possible. However, when you find upper management that you actual click with, it's feels like the sky has opened and the sun is shining down on you and the angels sing, ya know? However, how far can you go with that "click" with upper management before it's too far? What do you consider an appropriate healthy relationship with your boss?

One boss took to Reddit to vent his frustrations with his staff. He says that he believes he is a good boss and his employees even tell him so. They all get along very well during work hours and talk like they're amongst friends. However, once the quitting time whistle rings, the staff goes out and has their own time together and they never invite him out. He says he knows that being left out of after-work activities is part of being a manager, but he still feels left out and bummed about it. He posted all of these Reddit and redditors served him up a harsh reality—that you can either be their friends or their boss, you cannot be both. Though the fact of the matter seems harsh, many redditors also add that it's actually a good sign that he doesn't attend those after work outings with his staff. That his staff needs a safe space to vent about their upper management if they are going to garner a healthy working environment together and he just can't be there.

What do you think? Would you invite your boss out for happy hour drinks after work? Check out the thoughts on the subject below!